"I just want him to pursue me again..."

by Noah Wells
Noah and I were talking with a couple recently, and they shared how lonely marriage can feel sometimes. Not because they stopped loving each other, but because life got busy, and they forgot to see each other. She said, “I just want him to pursue me again, like he did before we were married.”
It hit me... so many of us feel unseen in our marriages. We get caught up in routines, responsibilities, and the chaos of life, and we forget that marriage is a living relationship that changes as we change. The person you married isn’t exactly the person you’re with now—and that’s a gift. You get to rediscover each other in every season.
Connection isn’t about fancy dates or perfect locations—it’s about showing up for each other. Send a text in the middle of the day saying, “I’m thinking of you.” Make a playlist of songs that remind you of them. Take a 20-minute walk together without phones. Cook a meal together and actually talk while doing it. These small, intentional moments are ways to pursue, notice, and celebrate each other.
Marriage isn’t just surviving life, it’s living it together. Take the time to see, know, and pursue the person you love, again and again.
-Shay
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