Getting to the root

So often we look at the “cope.” The thing we run to when life feels too heavy—porn, food, shopping, gossip, alcohol, unhealthy relationships… you name it. That’s what people see. And we think, If I just got rid of that, everything would be fine. My life would be easier. My marriage would be better. I’d be okay.

But the truth is, the cope is rarely the problem. It’s a symptom. It’s a bandaid.

Beneath it all, there’s a root. Maybe it’s a deep sense that you aren’t lovable. Maybe it’s people leaving you or criticizing you. Maybe it’s abuse, past or present, or a lifelong feeling of not being enough. The list goes on.

When we start getting back to that root—when we bring it to God, fully, and wait on His timing—we can begin real healing. The cope will still be there at times, but we won’t be trapped by it. We’ll start moving forward, hand in hand with God, letting Him mend the deeper wounds that nothing else could touch.

The cope is just the bandaid. Healing starts when we get to the root.