Unreal Expectations

Romans 8:7 & 8, “Because the mind set on the flesh is hostile toward God; for it does not subject itself to the law of God, for it is not even able to do so, and those who are in the flesh cannot please God.”

Generally in much of the East a person’s mate and vocation are chosen for him. Therefore, the expectation of what marriage and vocation can add to the quality of life is very low. People there tend to turn to spiritual things (often wrong spirits), the one place where there is no ceiling and a bit of a feeling of freedom. In the West, where the individual can choose a mate and vocation, there exists a very unreal expectation of what marriage and career can give. In fact, those are expected to give what they cannot give in a way totally different from God’s perspective of what marriage and work will accomplish in a person. Remember that the events of earth, passing through His hands, are preparing us for heaven, where there will be no marriage or vocations. In short, He is using our marriage and vocations to prepare us for something greater than what is often portrayed. Our first discovery is that they do not give LIFE, and second, that we cannot live for man. Third, that we are self-centered; fourth, that we are easily offended. Fifth and most importantly, that we are weak in our ability to love, to be faithful, to be content, or to have peace. Most hate to acknowledge it, but here is a simple secret: Admit where you are and you can leave where you are. Admit to God that you are trapped, that you have run out of love for your mate, that you are sick of being used or abused, and admit that you are still looking for life where LIFE cannot be found. Then, simply ask Him to come. A man told me of an experience that he had when he said, “All guilt for my failures fell off me in just the one moment when I realized that I was a bound man.” You see, Abraham received the promise of God and the first thing he did was look at himself, consider himself as good as dead when it came to fulfilling the promise, and trust God to accomplish what he could not do. Have you realized that you are bound and that apart from Him you can do nothing? If God is to get all the glory then God is to do all the work. If I hired you to do a job and then handcuffed you to a tree, what would you think? Yet, the day we believed in Jesus, before we could imitate Him, God crucified us to a tree. He is expecting nothing out of us. He knew what we would be at our worst, and still He chose us. You are feeling weak. Do not do anything except admit that you are bound and ask Him what He is planning on doing. Get your attention away from self and the whole situation. Choose Jesus. Do not make your first choice the promise to change; make your first choice Jesus. As He flows through you to your mate, your experience will be something about which the most romantic novelists or moviemakers have yet to tell!


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